HYPERLOVE #PSYCHO MECHANISMS < PRE-DRAFT > "He observed that embracing our freedom of will was healthy, whereas escaping freedom through the use of escape mechanisms was the root of psychological conflicts." --Wiki 🔗Erich_Fromm Updated: 2017-10-21 new, v0.1 2018-06-23 imported and redone, v0.5
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defer->let go
let go->SITUATION
uh huh->manipulation
uh huh->flee
uh huh->naughty
manipulation->lying by omission
manipulation->misleading
manipulation->victim playing
flee->defer
flee->disagreement
flee->silent treatment (sulking)
flee->one-sided
flee->evasion
naughty->provocation
hunger->(someone is in a shit mood)
(someone is in a shit mood)->naughty
(someone is in a shit mood)->disagreement
undersleeping->(someone is in a shit mood)
AGREE TO DISAGREE->let go
'the point wasn't to argue, but just to state another interesting point, which i can accept, there is no consequence out of this'->not worth it
not worth it->AGREE TO DISAGREE
trust fails->bet on trust
bet on trust->trust fails
bet on trust->trust works out
(intensification)->SITUATION
SITUATION->(intensification)
SITUATION->SITUATION
SITUATION->SITUATION
SITUATION->SITUATION
SITUATION->SITUATION
SITUATION->{{SITUATIONS}}
SITUATION->{{SITUATIONS}}
SITUATION->{{SITUATIONS}}
SITUATION->SOLUTION
{{SITUATIONS}}->defer
{{SITUATIONS}}->manipulation
{{SITUATIONS}}->naughty
{{SITUATIONS}}->exhaustion
{{SITUATIONS}}->misunderstanding
{{SITUATIONS}}->disagreement
{{SITUATIONS}}->lack of attention
{{SITUATIONS}}->fears
{{SITUATIONS}}->breaking agreements
{{SITUATIONS}}->unequal standing
{{SITUATIONS}}->compounding repetition
{{SITUATIONS}}->lack of reciprocity
{{SITUATIONS}}->understanding of gravity not shared
exhaustion->sex
advanced hermeneutic problems->misunderstanding
advanced hermeneutic problems->'what i say and what you hear may be 2 different things, and are 100% up to you'
trust works out->bet on trust
not detected as misunderstanding, so not communicated->coincidence
coincidence->misunderstanding
(unclear what it was)->misunderstanding
SOLUTION->SOLUTION
SOLUTION->SOLUTION
SOLUTION->SOLUTION
SOLUTION->SOLUTION
SOLUTION->ALL OKAY
SOLUTION->{{SOLUTIONS}}
SOLUTION->{{SOLUTIONS}}
SOLUTION->{{SOLUTIONS}}
(unclear how important it was)->misunderstanding
(unclear how important it was)->lack of attention
lack of attention->real
lack of attention->imagined
sex->let go
sex->fears
sex->'sex is a safe space where everything is possible lol'
(simply not caring)->naughty
external events->(someone is in a shit mood)
mishearing->coincidence
problem, that was not immediately raised or talked through->misunderstanding
ALL OKAY->SITUATION
lack of common language->misunderstanding
lack of common language->(COMMON LANGUAGE)
ignore->disagreement
monthly cycles->(someone is in a shit mood)
try to reach agreement->(agreement works)
try to reach agreement->(agreement fails NOW)
try to reach agreement->breaking agreements
(agreement works)->ACCEPT AND ADOPT A SINGLE POINT
(agreement works)->TRANSCENDENTAL UNDERSTANDING
(agreement fails NOW)->understanding of gravity not shared
breaking agreements->(unclear what it was)
breaking agreements->(unclear how important it was)
breaking agreements->(simply not caring)
escalate / get more angry->disagreement
passive agression (don't give a clear idea, if you confirm your mistake and right of other)->ignore
{{SOLUTIONS}}->let go
{{SOLUTIONS}}->bet on trust
{{SOLUTIONS}}->sex
{{SOLUTIONS}}->try to reach agreement
{{SOLUTIONS}}->mark+strikes
{{SOLUTIONS}}->apology
establish general understanding of Language Logics mechanics->(COMMON LANGUAGE)
synchronize mutual vocabulary (Language Logic °3)->(COMMON LANGUAGE)
unequal standing->'we can only be comrades if we share the same dangers'
lack of reciprocity->lack of care
lack of reciprocity->lack of thought
understanding of gravity not shared->'I accepted your point, but you keep repeating what you said and don't want to end it'
imagined->fears
'uh huh'->(to keep the privilege / whimsicality open)
victim playing->proxy abuse
mark+strikes->let go
mark+strikes->try to reach agreement
dehistoricize words (Language Logic °2)->(COMMON LANGUAGE)
apology->try to reach agreement
apology->'I did X, I understand it is problematic, I will aim to not repeat this'
ACCEPT AND ADOPT A SINGLE POINT->synchronize mutual vocabulary (Language Logic °3)
ACCEPT AND ADOPT A SINGLE POINT->dehistoricize words (Language Logic °2)
ACCEPT AND ADOPT A SINGLE POINT->abstract words, follow word roots (Language Logic °1)
TRANSCENDENTAL UNDERSTANDING->establish general understanding of Language Logics mechanics
defer
defer
let go
let go
uh huh
uh huh
manipulation
manipulation
flee
flee
naughty
naughty
hunger
hunger
(someone is in a shit mood)
(someone is in a shit mood)
undersleeping
undersleeping
AGREE TO DISAGREE
AGREE TO DISAGREE
'the point wasn't to argue, but just to state another interesting point, which i can accept, there is no consequence out of this'
'the point wasn't to argue, but
just to state another interesting
point, which i can accept, there
is no consequence out of this'
not worth it
not worth it
trust fails
trust fails
bet on trust
bet on trust
(intensification)
(intensification)
SITUATION
SITUATION
exhaustion
exhaustion
advanced hermeneutic problems
advanced hermeneutic problems
misunderstanding
misunderstanding
trust works out
trust works out
not detected as misunderstanding, so not communicated
not detected as misunderstanding,
so not communicated
coincidence
coincidence
(unclear what it was)
(unclear what it was)
SOLUTION
SOLUTION
disagreement
disagreement
(unclear how important it was)
(unclear how important it was)
lack of attention
lack of attention
sex
sex
fears
fears
(simply not caring)
(simply not caring)
external events
external events
mishearing
mishearing
problem, that was not immediately raised or talked through
problem, that was not immediately
raised or talked through
ALL OKAY
ALL OKAY
lack of common language
lack of common language
ignore
ignore
monthly cycles
monthly cycles
try to reach agreement
try to reach agreement
(agreement works)
(agreement works)
(agreement fails NOW)
(agreement fails NOW)
breaking agreements
breaking agreements
escalate / get more angry
escalate / get more angry
passive agression (don't give a clear idea, if you confirm your mistake and right of other)
passive agression (don't give
a clear idea, if you confirm your
mistake and right of other)
establish general understanding of Language Logics mechanics
establish general understanding
of Language Logics mechanics
(COMMON LANGUAGE)
(COMMON LANGUAGE)
synchronize mutual vocabulary (Language Logic °3)
synchronize mutual vocabulary
(Language Logic °3)
unequal standing
unequal standing
'we can only be comrades if we share the same dangers'
'we can only be comrades if
we share the same dangers'
compounding repetition
compounding repetition
lack of reciprocity
lack of reciprocity
understanding of gravity not shared
understanding of
gravity not shared
real
real
imagined
imagined
'what i say and what you hear may be 2 different things, and are 100% up to you'
'what i say and what you hear
may be 2 different things, and
are 100% up to you'
'uh huh'
'uh huh'
(to keep the privilege / whimsicality open)
(to keep the privilege
/ whimsicality open)
lying by omission
lying by omission
misleading
misleading
victim playing
victim playing
mark+strikes
mark+strikes
silent treatment (sulking)
silent treatment (sulking)
one-sided
one-sided
evasion
evasion
dehistoricize words (Language Logic °2)
dehistoricize words
(Language Logic °2)
apology
apology
'I did X, I understand it is problematic, I will aim to not repeat this'
'I did X, I understand it is problematic,
I will aim to not repeat this'
'sex is a safe space where everything is possible lol'
'sex is a safe space where
everything is possible lol'
provocation
provocation
proxy abuse
proxy abuse
'I accepted your point, but you keep repeating what you said and don't want to end it'
'I accepted your point, but you
keep repeating what you said and
don't want to end it'
ACCEPT AND ADOPT A SINGLE POINT
ACCEPT AND ADOPT
A SINGLE POINT
abstract words, follow word roots (Language Logic °1)
abstract words, follow word
roots (Language Logic °1)
TRANSCENDENTAL UNDERSTANDING
TRANSCENDENTAL UNDERSTANDING
lack of care
lack of care
lack of thought
lack of thought
How to use? Ideas for use: * follow this in a "Situation" * point out most common mechanisms * point out under-used mechanisms: (david - "let it go"?? d's ex: "trust loop"?, ...) * [...] Some key concepts: * situatin gravity: assigning different weights to seriousness of situation * effort-fitting: every situation-making is an effort, and takes counter effort the superseeding apology-effort must overcome it * dealing with repetitions: detecting repetitions (and loops) is crucial takes a stronger reaction - positive or negative! * [...] NEXT / TODO Follow real struggles: * LFT !!!!!! * ask partners: how to solve? * better direct connections: WOULD NEED EDGETYPES !!! #gliagraph * merge other cases! * [...] Missing: * break-up / dis-associate * [...] <--------------------------------- (new) *** PAD Done with: eva, tjaša, klara, pau, ...